Series: ‘A Note to Parents’ - The Structure Should Match the Kids

Tyler Kreitz • September 8, 2021

In this series of posts, published by our CEO Tyler Kreitz when he was the COO of ADVNC Lacrosse, Tyler sheds light on pressing issues facing families in youth sports. Not only does Tyler provide valuable insight on these issues from top researchers in the space, but also tangible solutions to instill positive change in the youth sports ecosystem coming out of the COVID-19 pandemic.

12/19/19

Dear Parents, 

At the beginning of last month, in early November, I went back to New York City to be on a panel titled ‘Designing for Impact’ at the Next Up Sports Conference . The conference was put on by LeagueApps and sought to bring folks in the burgeoning youth sports industry together to address the challenges and issues youth sports face, while also coming up with creative solutions. My session had three of us. Tom Farrey, the Director of the Aspen Institute’s Sports and Society Program ; Shannon Shneeman, the Executive Director of America SCORES, New York , and me. Needless to say, I was nervous to share the dais with these two and their broad swath of experience and knowledge. 

In spite of the nerves and a bit of jet lag, our panel went over well as we engaged and challenged our attendees to come up with tangible solutions to the issues facing youth sports. A lot of talk centered around attrition and kids leaving sports too early- an issue that the Aspen Institute and ESPN recently brought attention to with the Don’t Retire Kid campaign. The reasons for kids leaving sports vary, though much of it centers around early specialization and kids getting burned out through an overly structured and intense experience.   

These conversations lasted beyond the panel and well into the conference happy hour, where the conversations grew in proportion with the bar tab. It was there that a few executives from Major League Soccer and I compared notes on the soccer and lacrosse worlds, specifically around the US Soccer Development Academies . During the conversation they shared with me the process of Deselection in competitive youth soccer and how it is causing kids to walk away from the sport at a young age. 

Deselection is exactly what it sounds like, where kids as young as 10 who had previously been selected as elite are subsequently ferried out of elite soccer training pathways based on the evaluations and judgements of trusted adults. These evaluations are not willy-nilly nor are they without thought, they are rigorously structured to eliminate as much politicking as possible so that the adults can determine which kids get to continue their intense elite development and which do not. Not surprisingly, many kids who are ‘deselected’ from elite soccer end up retiring altogether instead of continuing to play the sport. 

As the folks from MLS and I discussed this process I couldn’t help but step on the soap box. This whole process seemed nuts and it sure wasn’t producing the results US Soccer wanted, especially given how spectacularly US Soccer failed leading to the last men’s World Cup. Plus we were talking about evaluating 10 year olds. 10 year olds whose athletic development was being predicted as if it were fact. Regardless of how structured the process was or how many checkboxes the coaches had, it’s awfully difficult to predict what happens when growth spurts happen, or don’t. 

In addition to the deselection process throwing out a lot of babies with the bathwater, the whole US soccer structure forced young kids to specialize at a really, really young age. This specialization not only puts more wear and tear on kids bodies and minds, it leads to physical and emotional burnout - a side effect recently studied by the National Association of Athletic Trainers and brought to light by Lebron James and Kobe Bryant . Not to mention, it hinders the natural athletic development acquired by playing different sports.

While sharing these critique’s with my new soccer friends there was a bit of schadenfreude in pointing out the cracks in the US Soccer system. Surely lacrosse could and would do better and we at ADVNC were proof! We encourage kids to play multiple sports, we focus on continual player development and we make Fun one of our top goals.

I then remembered that the following weekend I would be heading to our ADVNC National Development Program (NDP) training camp. The camp where we at ADVNC selected kids as young as 11 years old from our already select organization for even more intense training and specialization. My soap box crumbled a bit as it seemed like we again found ourselves in the position of contributing to a problem we are trying to fix.

When I returned back to the office later that week I brought up this conversation with Chris Rotelli and the NDP Director Greg Weigel and posed the questions - Were we demotivating kids with the NDP process? Were we forcing kids to specialize? Were we burning kids out emotionally and physically? Were we excluding kids who were late bloomers? These questions were easy for us to answer in terms of of our intention (No, no, no, no) but forced us to focus on the unintended repercussions of having an NDP.

In doing so we found models of successful youth sports programs that were adopting a more holistic, developmental approach to elite training programs. Ironically, one of the most successful models was from the Swedish soccer club AIK Stockholm . Led by Irishman Mark O’Sullivan, he described the clubs focus to Irish Examiner reporter Kieran Shannon as being “one where the structure now matches the needs of the kids, rather than the kids having to match the needs of the structure”.

As we grow as an organization that structure seems like the best one to build off of.

Until next time-

Tyler


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As the world of youth sports changes dramatically, it helps to look for wisdom in unexpected places. Sometimes the clearest lessons come not from another coach or league director, but from a completely different field—like medicine. That connection became real for me through a chance introduction to Dr. Sanat Dixit , a neurosurgeon working on Sideline Ortho, a venture aimed at solving the long-standing problem of adequate medical coverage in youth and amateur sports. Our conversations quickly moved beyond medicine into broader discussions about sports, health, and problem solving. It was through Dr. Dixit that I was introduced to The Doctor’s Lounge podcast, where physicians candidly discuss the forces reshaping their profession. Listening to one particular episode, I couldn’t help but notice parallels between healthcare and youth sports—two worlds that couldn’t be more different in stakes, yet share a strikingly similar challenge: how consolidation and misaligned incentives can quietly undermine the very mission they are meant to serve. At Focus On The Field, we talk a lot about mission drift. In our corner of the world—youth sports—the mission is simple: kids on the field, playing with a caring coach by their side. In healthcare, the mission is just as simple: patients cared for by doctors who know them, trust them, and want to heal. But when consolidation takes hold—when hospital systems or league operators start to swallow up smaller players—the incentives shift. And when incentives drift away from care or play, the people who matter most pay the price: patients in the doctor’s office, kids on the field. Two Different Worlds, One Similar Problem Let’s be clear. Healthcare decisions are matters of life and death. Youth sports, as much as we love them, are not. A missed diagnosis is not the same as a missed ground ball. But there’s a parallel worth noticing, because it helps us understand why so many families and communities feel squeezed. In healthcare, large systems often prioritize billing, efficiency, and market share over the relationship between doctor and patient. The Doctor’s Lounge podcast recently highlighted how these forces erode trust and quality of care. The incentives reward throughput, not connection. In youth sports, private equity and national operators are consolidating leagues and teams. The result is a system that increasingly rewards revenue growth—higher registration fees, expanded travel schedules, premium “elite” programs—over what kids actually need: fun, development, and affordable access. The effect in both cases is misalignment. The goals of the enterprise no longer line up with the goals of the people it exists to serve. What Misalignment Looks Like on the Field We see it every season: Skyrocketing costs —average families spending over $1,000 per child on a single sport. Overemphasis on travel and specialization —kids in hotel ballrooms more than neighborhood parks. Barriers to entry —whole communities priced out of participation, when sports should be a universal language of play. Just as patients feel like numbers in a system, kids and families are being treated like customers in a marketplace, rather than participants in a community. What Alignment Could Look Like Here’s the good news: unlike healthcare, where the regulatory fixes are complex and slow, youth sports leaders have the chance to reset incentives now. At Focus On The Field, we believe alignment starts with four commitments: Local First. Build schedules that keep kids in their communities. Travel should be a choice, not a requirement. Transparent Pricing. Families deserve to know the all-in cost before the season begins. Access for All. As organizations grow, so should scholarship funds and community access. Scale should expand inclusion, not narrow it. Development over Specialization. Leagues should design seasons that give kids breaks, encourage multiple sports, and put long-term health ahead of short-term trophies. These aren’t anti-growth. They’re pro-mission. Just as healthcare reformers push for “site-neutral” payments to level incentives, youth sports can adopt “play-neutral” standards—where the real measure of success is participation, not profit. The Call to Coaches, Directors, Parents — and Investors The parallel with healthcare reminds us of what’s at stake. No, youth sports aren’t life and death. But for millions of kids, they’re the difference between belonging and isolation, between health and inactivity, between joy and pressure. That matters. 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